Concepts described in The Circle of Trust (circleofsecurity.com) are helpful for children of all ages. There are some things you can do to help minimise the impact of unexpected events on your children. To begin with, start by making sure you talk with other adults who can help you to trust in the future. You need loving, steady support for yourself so you can be emotionally available for your child.
Be in charge. Don’t start allowing your child to make decisions they wouldn’t have made in the past. It is reassuring for children when you are setting the boundaries. Be kind and use your calm, gentle voice and understand your child is not being ‘naughty’; they simply need your help and presence. Continue to have routines as they provide your child with the reassurance of predictability. Sit down and simply just ‘be’ with your child. It is very soothing for children to have their loved adults with them.
At Homebuilders, we have many ways we are able to support you and your family. This includes our Chrysalis Programme, which is designed especially to support children during those times when life events or change is overwhelming. We can also provide Family Support which is an experienced support person with a wide range of skills who can come to your home, or meet you at our centre, to help you work through any difficulties.