Youth Voice – Seen, known and loved

Growing up as a young person today is different from 10 years ago, let alone a generation ago. Social media, economic stress, uncertain futures, and complex family dynamics are reshaping how young people experience the world and often contribute to rising levels of anxiety, depression, and loneliness. Although the challenges are well known, the statistics are still sobering: In 2022/23, one in five 15 to 24-year-olds experienced psychological distress. This is higher than other age groups, and it has risen over time (NZ Mental Health and Wellbeing Commission).

Yet, amid these challenges, we – as families, schools, and communities – have a powerful opportunity to change the story. We can create spaces where young people feel seen, known, and loved. The mental health of our youth is not just the responsibility of professionals, it is a collective, community responsibility that begins with whanaungatanga, building and nurturing our relationships. 

So, how can we support the young people in our lives, as an uncle, aunt, parent, friend, coach, teacher, or employer? First, it is presence over perfection. We can take the pressure off ourselves that we have to swoop in as the saviour. We don’t need to have all the answers or fix every problem. Often, the most powerful thing we can offer is our presence by showing up consistently, genuinely, and without distraction. In youth mentoring, it is that consistent engagement that makes the biggest difference. Not half-listening while scrolling on a phone, but being fully present. When adults model this kind of attentiveness and availability, it signals to young people: You matter.

Secondly, this leads to being a genuine listening ear. Being a good listener is more than just hearing words. Active listening means tuning into the emotions, concerns, and unspoken feelings behind what’s being said. It is about empathy – showing young people that we care enough to truly understand them. By actively listening, we can help young people feel heard and understood, which can be a powerful tool in building trust and supporting mental health.

Thirdly, be aware of the help that is available and encourage young people to seek it. While we might not be able to solve everything, we can be a bridge to the right support. On the Hibiscus Coast, there are a growing number of services and people passionate about youth wellbeing. The HBC Youth Hauora Network is a fantastic place to start, it’s a one-stop shop with information connecting families and young people to everything from counsellors and mental health professionals, to youth workers, mentors, and community programmes. For more info visit youthhauoranetwork.org.nz

We may not all be therapists, but we can be trusted adults. And sometimes that is just what a young person needs. Relationships are the A, B, C’s of our humanity. In a world full of digital noise, social pressure, and economic uncertainty, our relationships can be the most powerful tool we have. Let’s make it a priority: to be the kind of community that helps young people feel seen, known, and loved.